I cannot stand these ultimate Nigerians
that always wanna be the soldiers of who is really Nigerian
or not. This one chic has this obsession of like getting
at people for this.. Like she’ll ask someone she thinks
is African looking, where they’re from and if they’re
like “oh I’m from LA” or something like that she’ll be
like “You’re not from LA, where are YOUR PARENTS FROM”
and they’ll be like “Nigeria” or wherever…then she’ll
ask their name and if they give her a non-Naija name she’ll
be like “What’s your REAL name, your local name?“ wtf…
what if their first name is the English/Bible name? Who
are you to tell someone what their name is or not.
I get irked when people wanna come at me like you’re trying
to be oyibo and change your name...cos I say my nickname…like
idiot...who the fk does me having a nickname alluva sudden
have u come to the conclusion about who I am.. You don’t
know me… if I feel like telling u my full name I will...till
then ass-wipe how about I just say that name that ma and
like virtually everyone in my family calls me… its not
like even back in the village we don’t have nicknames
and short forms of names…is it every time someone will
be like olababajidetundeayo… pcheewww..
As far as were people are from…the American culture is
not like us where you’re from where ur father is from..
(that orange tree in the middle of nowhere that has your
ancestors last name carved on it)… people here pretty
much pick where they are from by where they are born/or
where they‘ve lived long enough to identify with…If you
have a naija kid born here or grew up here….umm guess
what growing up in American culture that’s what they’re
surrounded by… what they look like the one kid in class
talking about am from Nnewi…. Now don’t get me wrong that’s
all fine and dandy...if their parents instill that in
them. But that junk is effing hard having to adapt into
two or more identities…only for someone to come and wanna
tell you about yourself…
Why don’t you ride a goat to school and show us how very
Nigerian you are…idiot!
I actually can relate to what ur saying
.... it annoys me to no end when pple say thst to me and
i get it alot ..... cuz i didn't get to experience hs
or college in naija..... and even worse in yankee i grew
up in predominantly oyibo area (our family was the only
black fam in a city of over 60,000 when we moved there)
and when i say certain things thats an excuse to jump
on me to tell me how unnigerian i am.... i don't even
paly with that shit even when its joke cuz i'm tired of
it... and these are the same pple who will look at me
like i grew two heads when i start speaking my language.........
anyway my advice to pple is to embrace your heritage and
ur culture... but most of all also, be yorself. noone
can determine for you or tell you how nigerian or un-nigerian
I get that a lot.. so much people will argue
with me that my last name ain’t my last name and my first
name is made up.. like WTF..a name doesn’t make u more
African than the next African.. The Ugo Experience
Actually it does...because in the majority of cases....you
can tell where someone is from by their name....you can
trace a name's history. The Exception A name can
identify you as an African, but it certainly doesn't make
you less African if you don't have an obviously African
name. So all the Liberians that answer Smith and Cooper
are less African then Kwame Abeni?
Neon79 Oct 19 2005, 10:49 AM I am
not one to tell someone whether or not they are African
but if anyone tells me "they are American but their parents
are from Africa", I lose respect for them.
100% agree. that's some straight sell out shit! But saying
someone doesn't "sound Nigerian" is stupid too.
But for real though, wetin you wan those
that grew up in yankee say. If they now claim naija the
next question that would follow is where from Naija, when
they have not been, or seen the place? I no think it's
fair to judge ppl like that, you identify with places
you grew up at. Just like those that claim Lagos when
they really are ijebo-ode, but they no speak ijebu or
live there, will you deny they are ijebu-ode?
Why is it stupid to say someone doesn't
look/sound Nigerian, African, black etc? Accents, physical
attributes, slangs alot of times can be associated with
people of a certain race, geographic location, etc. If
a scientist can look at a rotten corpse and say(based
on features) the person was likely African-American, then
what is stupid about it? The Exception Describe
how a Nigerian looks? there is no generic look to a Nigerian.
Saying dumb chit like " you cut your hair short, Naija
girls don't wear their hair short" is retarded. Mr.
Smith If I put a random Nigerian, South African, Ethiopian
& Ghanian together and ask you to point out the Nigerian,
do you agree your chances of getting it right is greater
than 25%? But there is a "generic" look to Nigerian, generic
in the sense there are physical attributes typically associated
with Nigerians. Just like there are attributes typically
associated with Ethiopians, Ghanians, etc
Am I the only one that will not hesitate
to tell people that I am from Ijebu Igbo and Ogbomosho.
Me I have no shame in my game. Most times, people will
now ask me why I do not have such a strong African Accent
and it is then that I "MAY" proceed to explain. I am an
avid Naija and will not compromise on that any day.
The funny thing though is THERE ARE PPL WHO FAKE LIKE
THEY REALLY ARE FROM HERE! When we both know you left
Naija like 3 years ago on the same F-1 visa...I mean come
on, that ain't fly.
I've got no prob if you've been here all your life, were
born here or transplanted at an early age and Yankee IS
ALL YOU KNOW. There's a difference.
My thing is you are what you are. Trying to be something
you're not is hard and transparent, ppl can see gaping
holes through all o' dat.
Everyone has a right to be whoever they want to be at
the end of the day. I think it irks ppl like me that there
are those who'd rather jump on someone else's culture
b/cos they're looking down on their own. Not even trying
to at least learn something about where their parents
or whoever are from, their origins or whatever. No matter
who you are you have a history, except you were born out
of the sky and even then the sky is still your origin.
Homegirl is def going about it in the wrong way. Esp,
if you just met someone for the first time you can't just
start attacking folks, rather you educate 'em. Today after
a class I had, a girl mentioned my traditional name and
went "some weird name" I immediately corrected her...(she
was Af-Am) and ended up teaching the other one about how
through theo-colonialism Africans were given english names
and urged to use those instead of their traditional names.
I think if you come across ppl from either end of the
spectrum you've got to educate. For me its all about balance.
Its ok to imbibe whatever culture you want to if you're
an adult but a lot of ppl I've observed imbibe a foreign
culture because they aren't interested in that of their
parents and that stems mainly from the fact that THEY
DON'T EVEN KNOW JACK SQUAT about it or care to. That my
friends worries me.
I don't think this is something for you
to fret about because it's probably going to happen more
than this time. Collective and individual identity crisis
is something that people have fought for and it's not
going to go away. It reminds me of the story of the blind
men with the elephant. They all had their own definitions
of what it was based on their limited sight (pardon the
pun) and position at the time. What do you think the elephant
is saying to himself?... If you only know!. lol
So that's what it's all about. Perceptions and opinions.
If you know who you are and from whence you came, why
should people's opinions worry you? For instance, I've
been told by a Nigerian that it'ld be easier for me to
marry a white man 'cos I can't pick out unlabeled ukazi
leaves from ugu leaves, or pound yam with a morter without
it having lumps. Lol And on the other hand, I've been
told by another Nigerian that marrying a non-Nigerian
is out of the question for me 'cos I'm knee-deep in my
heritage and tradition with my knowledge of my ancestory
to the 7th generation and what have you. And I laugh at
these statements because they're opinions that speak only
to tiny fragments and situations that do not make or even
speak to my total self. No matter how "into the culture"
one is, some people will always have issues with those
that seem or act "different" contrary to the status quo
bylaws and/or definition of any community. The same thing
happens to anyone born of a mixed-race. As long as you
know in your heart, who you are and can stand up and attest
to that, I say, to hell with the nay-sayers. So, don't
worry about a thing, every little thing is gonna be alright.
Its got nothing to do with perception. You
can perceive yourself Greek all you want. It doesnt make
you Greek. I perceive myself American, can I get my American